Being that it’s Valentine’s Day and all, it’s a good time to express our love. But I’m referring to something different than what you are thinking – I’m referring to expressing our love to ourselves.
I don’t mean purchasing jewelry, dimming the lights, and having a little romance with yourself. (But hey, kudos to you if that’s your plan.) Instead, I propose we try something different. Maybe it’s me, but I’ve been noticing a pattern these days – with many people I come across, including myself. To ourselves, we’re kind of a train wreck of a boyfriend. Let me explain.
Whether we are in a serious relationship or not, we’ve been basing much of our wants, needs, and happiness in the hands of external things. People, situations, jobs…the list goes on. Many of us have no problem being a cheerleader to others and giving great advice and encouragement. We treat others with care. But ourselves? Pffffffft. We’d be lucky if we get ourselves a card to show appreciation, never mind chocolates or roses. We’re such a shitty boyfriend to ourselves that we half the time we don’t even call to check in or ask ourselves how our day was. Sometimes we’re so bad that we put everyone else’s worries and problems ahead of ourselves. What’s up with that?
Let’s love ourselves a little today. Let’s pretend that “ourselves” are our significant others, and that we are going to treat “them” exactly how we want to be treated. If we think we are feeling a little down about something, let’s ask “us” what that something is and try to make it better, instead of turning off emotionally and replying with a huff and an arms-crossed, “I’m fine.” Let’s remind “her” that she’s doing a great job just as she is, regardless if she thinks she isn’t. Let’s celebrate “her” for just being “her.” So, crack open that bottle of champagne. Enjoy your own company, no matter if you have a significant other or not. Celebrate your love for yourself today, and get to know what your needs are. Happy Valentine’s Day.